Butchmann's Experience Baltimore: June 27 - June 29, 2014
Tarheels Stars and Stripes: July 11 - July 13, 2014
WILL: August 1 - Aug 3, 2014
Master/slave Conference: August 28 - September 1, 2014
Leather History Conference: October 31 - November 2, 2014
Southwest Leather Conference: January 15 - January 18, 2014

2015
January 10 – Warehouse, Greenville, SC – Presenting Phantom Blue and slave sheri
January 15 – January 20 Southwest Leather Conference – Phoenix, AZ
February 13 – February 15 Butchmann's Weekend – Phoenix AZ
February 16 – Apex, Phoenix AZ – Ipads to Denture Cream
February 21 – Asheville, NC Asheville Mast
February 26 – March 3 Las Vegas, NV Sin in the City
March 6 – March 8 (Tentative) Greensboro, NC Submissive Symposium – Presenting Phantom Blue – slave sheri
March 14 – Orlando, FL – The Woodshed – Self Fundraiser
March 21 – Augusta, GA – Airs Augusta = Ipads to Denture Cream
April 4 – Nashville, TN – The Mark – Needles used in RitualsA
April 10 – April 13 Phoenix, AZ – Butchmann's Pansexual Experience
June 18 – June 21 Atlanta, GA – SELF 20th Anniversary – Step Down

Where has this year gone. In no time my title year will be coming to an end. Such a bitter sweet ending. It is hard to imagine one's life can change so much in one short year.

I would like to use this time to encourage others to decide to run for title. It doesn't matter if it is M/s, Ms, Mr, Bootblack or Person of Leather. I have spoken about all the amazing changes in my life. About my personal growth as a titleholder. I have spoken about the numerous people I have had the opportunity to meet. Now I would like to recognize some of the people who have helped me make those changes.

It begins with that person who encourages you to run. The one stands behind you with the boot on to kick you in the a__ when you start having second thoughts. SELF's contest coordinator, possibly the first person you contact officially and will be in contact with frequently as you get ready for the "big event".

My recommendation is find someone you know who has run for a title before, latch on and let them guide you and help you. If it is someone who is willing to follow through and be your handler for the event all the better.
Now it is time for the event. (If it were really all that easy.) You will find there are so many who will be willing to help you prepare. Donate to your basket, give advice, offer help and moral support, help you study etc. It is quite amazing but once you hit that event....WOW.

You have studied the judges, who they are, what they are known for, you may have met them before in passing, or not really ever seen them. They are like super-hero's. Looking back, I feel like I rarely saw them except when officially being judged but somehow you knew they were there. Watching how you interacted with others, your mannerisms anything they could pick up that would give a clue as to how you would represent your title. I cannot tell you how many times this past year I have thought of those judges and could just hug them. They have traveled with me this year, whether they realize it or not. I have thought back on things they have said to me before and after I received my title. I look forward to seeing them again. I feel confident that I could go to any of them and ask for guidance and they would be quite willing and happy to offer it.

Then came SELF Staff! Lady Catherine always available, checking in from time to time to say I haven't heard from you, what's going on? Are you taking care of yourself? SELF really has come to mean so much to me. The dreaded call when you think you really screwed up and Lady Catherine is there to talk you through it, give you advice on how to unscrew things and move on. There to tell you when you are sick and can't make a commitment that you are the one who is important and that "shit happens", reschedule and move on. What an empire and what an amazing person to run it.

SELF Den Daddy or Mommy. OMG, You would not survive the contest if it was not for this person. They are there for technical support, wardrobe advice, hugs, encouragement, time management, more hugs, more technical advice and they have a wealth of knowledge and an abundance of compassion. Utilize it and it shall make the whole weekend so much easier. When you are done you will have no clue what you would have done without them.
SELF advertising. They will cheer you on, share what you are doing, where you are doing it, and how long it took you. Ok perhaps that is going a bit far, but you will find they go far to share what is going on in your life and to promote you.

SELF Staff behind the scenes. I won't try to begin to name them, but know that if you win that title they go way beyond what their duties call for. SELF is a passion for every member of the staff and as a titleholder you could not be in better hands. I cannot give enough thanks.

Handlers how can you function without them. I was so fortunate. My handlers were not only there for the event, but they were part of my fantasy, they helped me weeks before the event and have been there ever since.
SELF attendees. The night you receive that title everything seems so surreal. I continue to say it is even overwhelming. Those who have cheered you on, and with the new audience voting have helped you become the titleholder. Those who come to you after and congratulate you. So many you don't even know, and so many you have looked up to and are now telling you what a great job you did.

Then your sash family. You have spent each day and night bonding and encouraging the other and hugging. Lots of hugging going on, and you learn things about your sash sisters and brothers you did not know. You get to run into them at events through the year and there is something special about it.

These are only a few of the people who have affected my life this year, but it is by far one of the most memorable years of my life. All I can say at this time is thank you SELF!!!!

The second quarter as Ms Self continued to have me on the road, during October and part of November. As the holidays set in I began to slow down and reflect at how my life has been affected by holding the title of Ms SELF.
Things had begun to change and I had grown prior to running for Ms SELF. I had already learned to be more confident in myself, and I must admit I was proud of myself for that self-growth. Little did I know how much more was yet to come.

I learned during the contest that I was no longer that timid little mouse and I was able to voice my opinions and represent ideas and ideals I believed in. I learned during that run that my life would never be as it was before. I am proud to be part of my title family. I admire and respect so many of those who walked before me, and I have learned to appreciate them as individuals with great strengths. I look forward to being available and supportive of those who will walk this path after me.

I gradually learned, understood and accepted the fact that the saying "there is someone for everyone" is not necessarily true. I accepted in my heart that that was probably the case for me and for the first time in my life, I was ok with that. No one was going to make me feel incomplete because I did not have someone in my life, especially me. No one was going to make me feel less of a slave because I had no Master to serve. I had as much to offer as anyone and with receiving my title I was going to live up to my responsibility and serve my community to the best of my ability.

I had been talking with Master Trish for probably about a year and we had spoken about me going into service to Her, and while we spoke about it being a possibility somehow it was difficult to believe that it would transpire. I had accepted the fact that I was ok serving the community and I chose to take it slow and if this was part of the path the universe wanted me to take it would take place without me trying to force it. In November, after a visit and attending House of Decorum's Leather Ball with me Master Trish made it official and this slave is now in service to one of the kindest most beautiful women she has ever known. She is as beautiful inside as she is outside and keeps this slave on a path of learning and growing. It is amazing that what I experience as a titleholder can hold so many of life's lessons. It is also so very wonderful that Master Trish compliments those lessons and helps me identify them.

I guess if I would want to leave any advice to anyone considering running it would be to look into your heart and if there is a desire to serve your community and the feeling that you have something that is worth sharing take that step to become a titleholder. It is an experience like none other and something that will never be regretted. Just know that it will change your life and it will change it forever.

Thank all of you for allowing me the opportunity to represent so many amazing people.

I have always been active in the community but it has always been from behind the scenes. Little did I know how my life was about to change. When I ran for Ms Self, 2014 I was well aware of the responsibilities that went along with being a titleholder, but it was not till the morning after that it really hit me what an impact I had made and how important those responsibilities really are. Those who I have always looked up to were coming to me and telling me what an important message I had shared. I believe the week after was a combination of feeling surreal, overwhelmed, and very humble.

It has been an extremely busy first quarter as I hit the ground running. The very first thing I attended was an On the Road Butchmann's Experience in Baltimore where I was able to interact with the attendees and share my experience as a new Southeast Leather Fest Titleholder. Then it was on to Stars and Stripes in North Carolina produced by The Tarheels. This was a lot of fun. My newly found Sash family and I sponsored one of the morning wake-up socials. Having a chance to spend the weekend with my new family and with so many friends that I have known for a long time was very calming for me. I was able to get ideas for my title year, suggestions from those I have known and respected. It was just awesome.

Then as August rolled around I attended and volunteered at Women's International Leather Legacy in Dallas, TX. How amazing that was getting to meet so many prestigious women in our community. I also had the privilege to do my first presentation as Ms SELF, 2014. IPads to Denture Cream. Can't imagine how my first presentation would be at an International Contest but everyone was very welcoming and I was able to receive more ideas. From there it was on to AZ where I attended an all Women's Butchmanns.

Back home I got to do a class on Self Defense at my home dungeon The Warehouse SC. That was a lot of fun. "How to stay out of trouble and what to do if that doesn't work out." I had a co presenter from where I work who has extensive training in self defense and who made everything very simple so it is easier to remember should you end up in a bad situation. Presenting to my local community is such an honor as many have been with me since the beginning.

Then the Master/slave Conference in DC. Another amazing weekend. I was there with my leather family, I was able to spend time with even more friends that I have met through my travels. I was also able to be in service to someone very special to me for the weekend, and last but not least I was given my earned leather boots. I have been blessed in so many ways and the year is just beginning. I feel like Princess slave pat.

The last weekend during this first quarter was in Alabama where I attended Nassa's annual picnic. It was such an honor to present for such a wonderful group. There was a combination of those who I have known and those who I was just having the pleasure of meeting for the first time. One of the best parts of all of this has been making so many new friends and getting to see so many that I don't get to see very often. I also got the chance to be fire flogged for the first time. Sure hope that isn't my last chance...I do like it hot!!

I am so looking forward to the next three months. October is a busy month for me with exciting things happening. Please see my schedule on Fetlife, Facebook and here on the SELF webpage. If you can make it to any place I am presenting please say hello. If I am not presenting in your area please contact me. My goal is to hit every state and by the end of this weekend I will have been in 5 of the 11 states I represent. November was suppose to be a quiet month but that just didn't happen the way I had it planned however I like it this way much better. December I will spend working and spending with family, leather and biological.

I would like to close with a thank you to all of you. If I have touched one person with the messages that I share I will consider this a successful year and your kindness and generosity has made that possible. You have all gone far beyond any of my expectations reaching out to me, making me feel welcome I cannot even begin to express my gratitude. Hoping to see you all very soon.
slave pat
Ms SELF, 2014

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We have a partial schedule available below and will update. If you are interested in having us volunteer, present, speak or even just visit your event please contact slave feyrie at southeastslave2014@gmail.com

July 2014
5th - Greensboro NC
11th-13th - Stars and Stripes. Tarheel Leather Club.
25th- MAsT : Charlotte / AWOL

August 2014
1st-3rd - Women's International Leather Legacy Weekend, Dallas (slave feyrie- tentative)
8th-10th - Southeast Black and Blue, Atlanta
22nd-24th- Great Lakes Leather Alliance, Indianapolis
28th-31 - Master slave Conference - Washington DC

September
Master/slave Conference and Northeast Master/slave contest
Leather Bash and International Transgender Contest

October
10th-12th - American Brotherhood Weekend, New Orleans
31st - Nov 2nd - Leather History Conference Wilmington NC
We are giving a formal tea for SMAK Waynesville NC. October 4, 2014 4 pm. Location pending

November
1st-2nd - LHC contd Wilmington NC
MAsT : Richmond

December
MAsT : Nashville
The Mark

January
15th- 18th - Southwest Leather Conference, Phoenix

February
Southern Bash (slave feyrie)

March
13th-15th - Southplains Leatherfest, Dallas

April
IMsL (tentative)

May
Trademark : Tradesmen Run
Northwest Leather Celebration and Northwest Master/slave contest

June
19th-22nd - SouthEast Leatherfest

California Trip Review

“...and California dreamin’ is becoming a reality.”

So I'm finally getting a chance to tell you about my trip and experiences in California, starting with IMsL. I'll have to be honest here, I was a little bit apprehensive about attending a primarily women's event, because I didn't want to interfere in their space. However, being asked to perform the tally for the contest, I found myself in a position to where I had to attend, and I'm so glad that I did! The first thing that I noticed was how tight, organized and well-oiled the operation was. There were safeguards in place to enforce the integrity of the contest as well as one of the most well planned events I've ever had the privilege of attending. No offense other events, but these folks can run a show! I was astounded at these incredible women! I have not felt that kind of energy ever before at an event and I was just floored by the caliber of people that I was in the company of. I saw one particular amazon who was obviously sudden death in both hands and I felt like I had to meet her. Once I began talking with her and learned about her previous military experience etc. it made sense why I got the impression that I did.

This place was a candy land for slave feyrie of course. She got to get a chance to be in the bootblack chair with International Bootblack Dara! I really enjoyed watching her have fun throughout the weekend.

I got a T-shirt which says “Man of IMsL” and it has become one of my favorites. You’ll see me wearing it often. We hear a lot of talk about “Hey guys it’s okay to come to IMsL.” – let me tell you, you'll enjoy the s*** out of it!

P.S.: Go Gang Bang Girls!

There are so many stories to tell about my experience that it would take a very long time and I expect the reader would give up after a certain amount. So let me tell you that I very much enjoyed meeting sacred whore Nina Hartley, whom I was able to congratulate on an excellent speech and since she is a slave, was able to tell her "Well done slave!”. I also told her how much I enjoyed our “relationship” during my youth in the 80s - and that I had washed my hands since then. I also thanked her for doing the Work, but that was a very private moment that I won’t relate in detail here.

I met someone whom I am convinced trained as a Bene Gesserit and was able to use neuro-enticement, instant hypnosis and other skills to imprint upon me the answer to a question that I asked her, I'm still processing the answer that she gave even though it was a short one. Sorry to keep things such a mystery.

We decided that it would be less expensive to simply stay in California with a friend, rather than fly back and again back to California for Leather H.E.A.T.. During the week we attended a slave circle hosted by our friend who put us up. We got to have lunch with Master Morris, International Master 2013. Not only did he feed us an excellent lunch, he fed our souls with art and music as he showed us his watercolors and played Chopin for us on a beautiful antique piano.

We also got to see Laura Antoniou at the Kink.com armory in San Francisco. 

Friday we spent this drive down the Pacific Coast Highway which I had never seen before and it was beautiful.

Arriving in Los Angeles at Leather H.E.A.T., I was so happy to be among so many friends. This wasn’t an event where we were presenting or performing any other functions, so it was a great time just enjoy having personal moments with so many of the attendees. Master George and slave bren’s maiden voyage was executed with style! I loved Master George’s speech about how each of our communities are like ships and we stay on them and ask to come aboard other’s sometimes, but when a threat exists, we will come to the aid of the other boats. For the past several years Master George and I have been passing in the hall and shaking hands looking at each other with a knowing nod that we're on our way to somewhere, “got to go” smiling leave. It was so wonderful to finally have a talk with him at length about things. I also got a chance to visit with slave who is always a delight. As I told Master George after the event, there was no way that you could tell that this was their first event. That it was definitely high-quality and rivalled other national events. I highly recommend it to anyone who is able to attend next year.

Next: IML! And SELF is coming up sooner than we realize - we’re going to have a blast!

2015 started out with a bang. We attended SouthWest Leatherfest with SELF family and had an amazing time. In February, we presented The Three Pillars of M/s class at The Warehouse in Greenville, SC, then slave feyrie taught two classes at Southern Bash, a womyn's event in Atlanta. In March, we journied to Dallas, Texas, where we represented the SouthEast in the International Master and slave at South Plains Leatherfest. We are excited and honored to have been awarded the title of International Master and slave, and enjoyed all the support we got from our SELF family. Our next trip will be to International Ms Leather in San Jose, California, where we will be tallymasters for the contest! After that we are finalizing plans for several events. We are also looking forward to June and the 20th anniversary of SouthEast Leatherfest.

We kicked off our title year close to home - representing the SouthEast LeatherFest family at the Tarheel Leather Club Run in July. We threw a great Bloody Marys and Mimosas cocktail party with Slave Pat and Blackjack. We helped with the Tarheel formal tea and slave feyrie got to give a very short tea class. We enjoyed spending time with the Tarheels, and are especially grateful for their great dungeon spaces where we got to play!

August saw our journey to Great Lakes Leather Alliance in Indianapolis. We loved meeting new friends, hanging out with the bootblacks and puppies, and enjoying the contest. We hope all of our GLLA friends will come visit us the 3rd weekend in June so we can show them as much fun as they showed us!!!

Master/slave Conference outside of Washington DC was one of the many highlights of our year. We got to spend times with M/s people from all over North America - and some from other countries! We enjoyed volunteering for Cowboy Jen's security team, shopping with some great Vendors, enjoying the formal leather dinner, listening to great speakers, going to all the M/s contest events, and attending classes given by some of the top M/s presenters in the nation. We had an amazing time with our SouthEast LeatherFest family and with friends and loved ones from near and far.

Our next stop was back to Atlanta for the International Mr and Ms Transgender Contest. We got to know both contestants and were truly impressed by the caliber of these title holders and the goals they pursue. We are honored to support them in spreading awareness for issues faced by trans men and women both locally and all over the world. Several of the SouthEast LeatherFest family were in attendance or working the event

October saw the changing of the leaves and a trip to the mountains of Waynesville NC and Master Mustang and slave Filly's group, SMAK. We gave an afternoon tea and a tea class. We had a wonderful time sharing our passion with our friends and SELF family in Waynesboro.

Chicago or Bust! The SouthEast LeatherFest family got to travel to Chicago to support SELF's own Boy Dave as he ran for American Leather Boy. We had an amazing time with some incredible people. We visited the leather archives and museum and got to see and touch our history. slave feyrie got to attend the Leatherwomen's dinner, along with our producer, Catherine Gross, SELF family members and her Appalachian Women of Leather sisters. It was inspiring to see the heart and sense of brotherhood of men and women of leather from around the country.

Leather History Conference was a great experience. We got to listen to Leather men and women tell the stories of their personal journeys. Slave feyrie's highlight was helping setup and tear down the dungeon spaces. Master Kevin enjoyed one-on-one conversations at breakfast with all his friends.

November and December gave us the opportunity to teach, teach, teach! MAsT : Richmond hosted us and we gave the extended version of our Signposts from the Edge Class. We spent the weekend with them, and even visited Fallout, a new fetish club where SELF's own Kitten Khaous was boot blacking.

We rang in December with a visit to Nashville, where did 4 presentations in one day! What a great opportunity for us to hone our skills and share with others! We are so grateful to Grand Mistress Kay and Lord Mercury for hosting us. We presented our Pillers of M/s Relationships class at MAsT : Nashville, our Service Posituons for Every Body class at the Mark, and did a podcast for Woody and the Beast at KinkyCast. Grand Mistress Kay hosted an amazing tea god us and we got to do a tea class too!

What an amazing year we've had so far! We can't wait to see what the New Year brings, as we continue our journey towards South Plains in March and beyond!

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