Explore. Be you.

Hola. Ciao. Namaste. Salaam. Bonjour. Ni hau. Yo. Shalom. Hello! SELF embraces all kink, play, ways of being, and relationship styles. We are a welcoming, non-conformist event. Be a part of it! Explore YourSELF!!!

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Intensives.

Ready to dive deep? From Energy experiences, Vacuum Beds, Hook Pull, M/s Relationships, Households, Protocols and Whips!

Intensive Details & Tickets

Volunteer Openings

We have openings for event volunteers! Meet people and help create the event!

Volunteer today!

The Gathering.

Thursday, April 9, 2026 6:30pm 8th Annual Women & Girls of Leather Gathering. Bring your voice in all the words that only you can say.

ALL All women (cis & trans) and enbys are welcome, no club affiliation needed.

The Gathering - Thursday

SELF Signature Programs

Coming alone? SELF Connections is for you! Want to attend remotely- SELF LIVE! Want to experience and become a highly skilled bootblack - BootBlack Academy 101, 201, and 301!

SELF LIVE

SELF LIVE provides accessibility and 100% of funds support our scholarships. We have world class educators & more!

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The Contest.

Fri & Sat we have contests! If you sign up during registration, you can vote in those contest. Have a blast, go to the show and enjoy!

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Explore. Be you.
Intensives.
Volunteer Openings
The Gathering.
SELF Signature Programs
SELF LIVE
The Contest.
Embrace. Experience. Explore.
SELF is an educational, fundraising, and social convention that supports lifestyles and relationships of consenting adults. We are four days of exploration, invigoration, and conversation. We are a domestic non-profit. SELF is a four-day event where differing communities attend and generate something more than our individual selves or communities.

SELF provides a space to explore and strengthen your sense of many communities. We engage in alternative relationships, are LGBTQIA+, allies, advocates, and people pursuing free expression of our identities as individuals and within our relationships.
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We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
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SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
SELF
We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
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Reg and Jamal
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SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
SELF is looking for Virgins! You should too!
We love people new to BDSM and leather or just new to SELF! We’re ready to welcome them and have them join in our fun! SELF welcomes new people each year and this year we want all you SELF veterans to reach out and bring a virgin, or two, or twenty with you!



To encourage Virgin welcoming we’re sweetening the deal: Each virgin you bring who is registered for the full weekend of SELF will get you 1 entry into a drawing! More virgins = more chances to win! The winner will receive: 1 SELF basic package and two nights at the host hotel (a value of $500).

Virgin Raffle Rules

2026 SELF Titleholders

Papa Jeff Tanglewood2026 Mr SouthEast LeatherFest Papa Jeff is a native of rural North Carolina. He is a white, cisgendered, 68-year-old, masculine gay male who is conscious of the overlapping privilege and problems inherent in this stack of labels. He is currently serving as Mr. NC Leather 2025.Papa Jeff came into the Leather and Kink community in 1979 and was mentored and trained by Daddy David Wright for two-and-a-half years. In 1982, Papa...

Puddles PrincessSE Bootblack 2026 PuddlePrincess, or Puddles for short, is a proud Leather Kitten from Greensboro NC. She entered the kink lifestyle at 18, and found her forever leather family and mentors of NCMaster, Master Varii and the Tarheel Leather Club in 2023. With their guidance she has learned a lot about leather history and what it means "to be leather". She found her love of teaching others as a teenager and has let that take over...