Explore. Be you.

Hola. Ciao. Namaste. Salaam. Bonjour. Ni hau. Yo. Shalom. Hello! SELF embraces all kink, play, ways of being, and relationship styles. We are a welcoming, non-conformist event. Be a part of it! Explore YourSELF!!!

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Intensives.

Ready to dive deep? From Energy experiences, Vacuum Beds, Hook Pull, M/s Relationships, Households, Protocols and Whips!

Intensive Details & Tickets

Volunteer Openings

We have openings for event volunteers! Meet people and help create the event!

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The Gathering.

Thursday, April 9, 2026 6:30pm 8th Annual Women & Girls of Leather Gathering. Bring your voice in all the words that only you can say.

ALL All women (cis & trans) and enbys are welcome, no club affiliation needed.

The Gathering - Thursday

SELF Signature Programs

Coming alone? SELF Connections is for you! Want to attend remotely- SELF LIVE! Want to experience and become a highly skilled bootblack - BootBlack Academy 101, 201, and 301!

SELF LIVE

SELF LIVE provides accessibility and 100% of funds support our scholarships. We have world class educators & more!

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The Contest.

Fri & Sat we have contests! If you sign up during registration, you can vote in those contest. Have a blast, go to the show and enjoy!

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Explore. Be you.
Intensives.
Volunteer Openings
The Gathering.
SELF Signature Programs
SELF LIVE
The Contest.
Embrace. Experience. Explore.
SELF is an educational, fundraising, and social convention that supports lifestyles and relationships of consenting adults. We are four days of exploration, invigoration, and conversation. We are a domestic non-profit. SELF is a four-day event where differing communities attend and generate something more than our individual selves or communities.

SELF provides a space to explore and strengthen your sense of many communities. We engage in alternative relationships, are LGBTQIA+, allies, advocates, and people pursuing free expression of our identities as individuals and within our relationships.
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We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
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SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
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We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
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Reg and Jamal
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SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
SELF is looking for Virgins! You should too!
We love people new to BDSM and leather or just new to SELF! We’re ready to welcome them and have them join in our fun! SELF welcomes new people each year and this year we want all you SELF veterans to reach out and bring a virgin, or two, or twenty with you!



To encourage Virgin welcoming we’re sweetening the deal: Each virgin you bring who is registered for the full weekend of SELF will get you 1 entry into a drawing! More virgins = more chances to win! The winner will receive: 1 SELF basic package and two nights at the host hotel (a value of $500).

Virgin Raffle Rules

2025 SELF Titleholders

 Master Aaron & slave jennie - 2024 - 2025SouthEast Master and slave Master Aaron started his journey in eastern NC and entered the community in 1998. He began attending social events with WINK out of Wilmington and travelled to Washington, DC, to the Crucible. In time he decided to pursue a path of Mastery and reached out to find a mentor.  For over 10 years, he was under the watchful eye of Master Roy and was covered by...

Sir Andrew2024 & 2025 Mr SouthEast LeatherFest Sir Andrew is a born and raised Southern Gentleman, having lived in SC or NC most of his life. He discovered the BDSM lifestyle in the late 90’s and began his journey with T3WD in 2005. There he met the people who would become his first leather family and would set him on the path he is still on today. He has worked with many events over the years, including Frolicon, DomCon Atlanta, Southern...

 Dakota - 2025SouthEast Bootblack Dakota:Dakota has been in the community since February 2020. Immediately going into lockdown was not ideal, but it helped her find her love of bootlicking. Once things opened back up, she finally got to experience the community first hand. Having a community of people helped her come out of her shell and discover herself.In her day to day life, Dakota raises awareness for her disability through many ways....

 girlBettie- 2025SouthEast Person of Leather girlBettie:girlBettie is a queer, polyamorous, submissive-leaning switch currently living in Asheville, NC. She has been in the kink community for over 20 years and has been a part of the Leather community since 2007. She holds two Leather titles: Ms. North Carolina Leather 2007 and Ms. SouthEast LeatherFest 2008.When she stepped down from her role as a current titleholder, she accepted a place...

 Terrell- 2025SouthEast LeatherFest Boy Terrell:Terrell is an adorable cubby based out of Greensboro, North Carolina. He's been in and around the kink community for roughly 12 years learning a lot from bear nights and other kink events he's gone to over the years. Most of his time in the community has been as an observer but, in recent years, he's started taking a more active role in the community, going out to support fetish spaces that...

 Amethyst glaze- 2025Ms. SouthEast LeatherFest Amethyst glaze:Nikki A. Glaze (she/her/femme)- affectionately known as Amethyst glaze - is a Black Queer-Femme who proudly identifies as babygirl, slayv, and Leather-being. With over a decade of experience as a practitioner, educator, and presenter in the BDSM, Kink, and Leather communities, she has dedicated herself to fostering connection, education, and protected spaces for...