Our 30th Event Celebration!Allure lives in the tension between restraint and surrender. It’s the ache that grows sharper the closer you get, the craving that deepens with every discovery. This year’s conference invites you into a curated space of kink, leather, BDSM, and embodied exploration—where desire is honored, curiosity is fed, and hunger is celebrated. Come experience Allure, and step into a space designed to awaken what you crave and who you’re becoming.
Get Registered!Get the essentials first, then add the programs and pieces that make the weekend yours.
A welcoming, facilitated space for people seeking intentional conversation and meaningful connection across SELF’s many communities. Meet people beyond the classroom, share experiences, and build connections that can last beyond the event.
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Bootblack Academy offers both 101 and 201 this year—from foundations for newer bootblacks to deeper skill-building for experienced participants. Space is limited, so buy your ticket now.
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SELF LIVE brings our education and community to people across the country while helping support SELF scholarships. Can’t attend the in-person event? Go to SELF LIVE!
Explore the program →A dedicated gathering centered on topics, discussion, and networking for women and girls of leather. Each year, different hosts bring fresh topics. Lend your energy to this unique living-room experience!
Explore the gathering →A facilitated ritual space for intention, embodiment, and community.
Explore Ritualistic Intensive →Explore skills, identities, relationships, history, and practice with experienced presenters.
Explore workshops →Find the social spaces, affinity gatherings, and shared celebrations that bring the weekend alive.
Find your spaces →SELF is built from many identities, communities, histories, and ways of belonging. Meet the people who return, contribute, teach, learn, and make room for one another.
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Our 30th Event Celebration!
Allure lives in the tension between restraint and surrender. It’s the ache that grows sharper the closer you get, the craving that deepens with every discovery. This year we explore our past, our current kink, leather, BDSM, and embodied exploration—where desire is honored, curiosity is fed, and hunger is celebrated. Come experience the Allure of the future, and step into a space designed to awaken what you crave and who you’re becoming.
Get Registered in October!Presenters, hosts, and vendors make SELF possible. Explore open opportunities.
Staying at the host hotel keeps you close to everything while directly supporting SELF. Every room booked inside the official SELF block helps us meet our contractual hotel obligations and helps keep the event sustainable.
Support SELF—book through the SELF block and your costly resort fee is waived. Filling the first room block quickly gives us the best chance to open a second block at the same rate, if the hotel can make additional rooms available.
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A welcoming, facilitated space for people seeking intentional conversation and meaningful connection across SELF’s many communities. Meet people beyond the classroom, share experiences, and build connections that can last beyond the event.
Explore SELF Connections →Bootblack Academy offers both 101 and 201 this year—from foundations for newer bootblacks to deeper skill-building for experienced participants. Space is limited, so buy your ticket now.
Explore this first-of-its-kind intensive →SELF LIVE brings our education and community to people across the country. Purchase tickets. Support SELF scholarships. Can’t attend the in-person event? Go to SELF LIVE!
Explore online programming →A dedicated gathering centered on topics, discussion, and networking for women and girls of leather. Each year, different hosts bring fresh topics. Lend your energy to this unique living-room experience! New location.
Explore the gathering →A facilitated ritual space for intention, embodiment, and community. This is a separately ticketed experience with limited capacity, so purchase your ticket early.
Join this transformative experience →Meet the people who guide SELF today—and learn how you can help shape what comes next.
SELF is more than an event. We are a social and educational home built and sustained across decades—a place where many communities, often radically different from one another, gather under one tent.
We create intentional spaces of care, belonging, and accountability for populations that have not always found those things elsewhere. By bringing distinct communities together, we exchange knowledge, deepen understanding, challenge assumptions, and strengthen the welcome we extend to one another.
Whether you thrive in lively social spaces or prefer quieter, introvert-friendly ways to connect, there is room to participate as yourSELF. We teach, learn, grow, play, connect, and build community together.
More About SELFExplore skills, identities, relationships, history, and practice with experienced presenters. This year, you’ll be able to give feedback on every class saved in your mySELF account. How we serve you has been reimagined, and we hope you’ll enjoy the ease of creating a schedule across your devices that goes where you go.
Explore workshops →Explore the many opportunities for joy, fun, SELF-expression, contests for bragging rights, pet play, and more!
Find your spaces →Representation matters. You could be the next person to represent a SELF title, your community, and your values—and we’re here for you every step of the way. SELF titleholders have an incredible history of leadership, service, and authenticity. The strongest titleholders do not follow someone else’s path; they freely create the new path that only they can.
Explore SELF contests →Build your schedule, keep your event information together, access content across your devices, and provide class feedback through your personal mySELF account. It is also your connection point for finding what you need and receiving news throughout your SELF experience.
Explore mySELF →Get the essentials first, then add the programs and pieces that make the weekend yours.
