Explore. Be you.

Hola. Ciao. Namaste. Salaam. Bonjour. Ni hau. Yo. Shalom. Hello! SELF embraces all kink, play, ways of being, and relationship styles. We are a welcoming, non-conformist event. Be a part of it! Explore YourSELF!!!

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Intensives.

Ready to dive deep? From Energy experiences, Florentine Flogging, our Hook Pull, M/s Relationships, and Single Tails!

Intensive Details & Tickets

Volunteer Openings

We have openings for event volunteers! Meet people and help create the event!

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The Gathering.

Thursday, June 12, 2025 7pm 7th Annual Women & Girls of Leather Gathering. We're looking for hosts! Is it you? Let us know.

ALL women (cis & trans) and enbys are welcome, no club affiliation needed.

The Gathering - Thursday

2024 to 2025...

We're moving into 2025... 2024 was a great year. Be part of the NEXUS for 2025. Host and Presenter apps open Sept 18th!

Be a part of it...

The Contest.

Fri & Sat we have contests! If you sign up during registration, you can vote in those contest. Have a blast, go to the show and enjoy!

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SELF is an educational, fundraising, and social convention that supports lifestyles and relationships of consenting adults. We are four days of exploration, invigoration, and conversation. We are a domestic non-profit. SELF is a four-day event where differing communities attend and generate something more than our individual selves or communities.

SELF provides a space to explore and strengthen your sense of many communities. We engage in alternative relationships, are LGBTQIA+, allies, advocates, and people pursuing free expression of our identities as individuals and within our relationships.
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We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
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SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
SELF
We respect individual expression and choice of our many communities. Explore your choices, your freedoms, yourSELF, your kinks, and your relationship! Explore your untapped SELF!
boot
Reg and Jamal
Social
SELF is the experience that opens your heart, expands your possibilities and creates more play.
SELF is looking for Virgins! You should too!
We love people new to BDSM and leather or just new to SELF! We’re ready to welcome them and have them join in our fun! SELF welcomes new people each year and this year we want all you SELF veterans to reach out and bring a virgin, or two, or twenty with you!



To encourage Virgin welcoming we’re sweetening the deal: Each virgin you bring who is registered for the full weekend of SELF will get you 1 entry into a drawing! More virgins = more chances to win! The winner will receive: 1 SELF basic package and two nights at the host hotel (a value of $500).

Virgin Raffle Rules

2024 SELF Titleholders

 Master Aaron & slave Jennie - 2024 SouthEast Master and slave Master Aaron started his journey in eastern NC and entered the community in 1998. He began attending social events with WINK out of Wilmington and travelled to Washington, DC, to the Crucible. In time he decided to pursue a path of Mastery and reached out to find a mentor.  For over 10 years, he was under the watchful eye of Master Roy and was covered by him and...

 Keriis - 2024 SouthEast Bootblack keriis is a 39-year-old, Pansexual, CIS, Leatherboy. His journey in bootblacking began when he learned the basics from Caviler_Andy when they met in 2010. While attending major events across the east coast, keriis continued to learn by watching and asking questions of other bootblacks. keriis met his Ma’am, S_Nicky, in 2011 and has been in Her service since 2012. During that time, keriis continued to...

Sir Andrew2024 Mr SouthEast LeatherFest Sir Andrew is a born and raised Southern Gentleman, having lived in SC or NC most of his life. He discovered the BDSM lifestyle in the late 90’s and began his journey with T3WD in 2005. There he met the people who would become his first leather family and would set him on the path he is still on today. He has worked with many events over the years, including Frolicon, DomCon Atlanta, Southern Sole, and...

  Sabrina Hypnotica 2024 Ms. SouthEast LeatherFest Sabrina Hypnotica is a vibrant and sparkling personality whose energy often precedes her.  Since January of 2020, she has immersed herself in the BDSM community, led by a strong desire to be of service and have her own way. Along her journey, she has drawn on existing skills and been encouraged to reach for new strengths. Littles have flocked to her side because of her love of...